However, some drivers use their horns inappropriately simply to vent frustration. Traveling through life with a grumbler reminds me of “highway honkers.” There are times when a driver needs to honk his horn to warn or alert a pedestrian or another driver to some danger or situation. ![]() Now we can understand why the grumbler might say, “You don’t send me flowers you don’t sing me love songs.” ![]() Songs are sung but the grumbler complains about a missed note. Roses are given but the grumbler complains about the thorns. A full-grown grumbling pattern cannot be satisfied nothing done by the relationship partner is sufficient or good enough. With rare exception relationships cannot sustain peace and joy when they are consistently bombarded by barrages of grumbles and complaints. To say it again, complaining is draining! The pattern not only robs the grumbler of inner peace but it also steals the peace from the relationship. ![]() It’s hard to stay “up” in terms of mood and outlook when the “gravity of grumbling” is pulling us “down” into the black pit of negativity. Just as natural gravity pulls objects downward toward the earth’s surface so grumbling pulls down people who are exposed to the negative pattern. Most people have not contemplated the gravity of grumbling and the serious threat posed to any human relationship. Accordingly, a person’s grumbling pattern will affect relationship health in adverse ways. Their relationship journey was headed toward a major collision with tragic consequences.Īs a general rule, whatever affects an individual adversely will impact his relationships in negative ways. The Grumbling Highway on which their marriage traveled was covered with the ominous clouds of emotional exhaustion. He was not likely to allow his heart to grow three times bigger, as was the case with Dr. She had long since abandoned the hope of any positive change. Somehow she had to find a way to survive The Grumbler (“Mr. Emotionally drained by her spouse’s frequent barrages of negativity, she was searching for solutions-not for him but for herself. Throughout their relationship his negative attitude about life in general and holidays in particular had stolen much of her excitement and enjoyment. Grinch.” It seemed to her that every expression of joy was countered by her husband with either a complaint or a criticism. She was excited about the upcoming holidays-Thanksgiving and Christmas. Good shout Edgar.The weary wife looked hopeless as she described her husband’s grumbling pattern. Shuts the negative nancys up and more positive noise. Now I’m not saying that shutting these guys up caused the great atmosphere, but if we all adopt a similar tactic, it bloody shuts them. The negative nancy’s (As a nice way to describe them) soon realised what we were doing and shut up. A few round about me noticed what I was doing and joined in. So I started shouting positively as they were up to their usual. Listening to heart and hand before yesterday’s game, David Edgar touched on the fact that most fans won’t turn round to tell our more negatively focussed fans to look on the bright side. ![]() I’m probably like the majority, I won’t stand up and start a song.
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